Do you have such kind of experience? In a bus you may look at stranger, but not too long. And if he is sensing that he is being (stared at), he may feel uncomfortable.
The same in daily life. If you are looked at for more than necessary, you will look at yourself up and down, to see if there is anything wrong with you. If nothing (goes) wrong, you will feel angry toward other’s stare with you that way. Eyes do speak, right?
Looking too long at someone may seem to be rude and (aggressive). But things are different when it comes to stare at the opposite sex. If a man glances at a woman for more than 10 seconds and refuses to avert his gaze, his (intentions) are obvious, that is, he wishes to attract her attention, to make her understand that he is admiring her.
However, the normal eye contact for two people engaged in conversation is that the speaker will only look at the listener from time to time, in order to make sure that the listener (does) pay attention to what the former is speaking, to tell him that he is attentive.
If a speaker looks at you (continuously) when speaking, as if he tries to dominate you, you will feel disconcerted. A poor liar usually (exposes) himself by looking too long at the victim, since he believes in the false idea that to look straight in the eye is a sign of honest communication. Quite the contrary.
In fact, continuous eye contact is (confined to) lovers only, who will enjoy looking at each other tenderly for a long time, to show affection that words cannot express.
Evidently, eye contact should be done according to the relationship (between) two people and the specific situation.
Question)
1. Do think eyes can speak and even better than your oral languages?
2. What other factors, in your opinion, makes a perfect communication?
